Published on 25 April 2020 by Kyla R.

Whether you feel as if you’re dependent on your parents, friends, or partner(s)…Sometimes we all feel as if we aren’t contributing much to the pile. So that’s where the recurring question of, “How do I change this?” comes in.

I’ve always been the kind of person who tries to keep a positive and optimistic outlook on life and all the crazy events and scenarios that comes with it. Especially when you’re younger (early teens, late teens, early twenties) it’s hard to feel independent if you’re anything like me. If you’re part of the typical family, you go off to college and continue mooching off your family or end up taking loans for schooling. In some cases, you do both (like me). So how can you be more independent with the help of others? Here are some things that have helped me.

Consider Your Future. Seriously.

So many younger adults don’t actually plan for the future. If you’re anything like me, that kinda sounds insane. (Once you get into the planning mindset, you can never get out. It’s like a stressful maze sometimes!) I’m not telling you to get a job with a retirement fund and start working full time now or buy yourself a house (well, maybe. You’ll see)!

We have all fantasized about our futures. If you’ve ever had any serious relationship, you’ve probably thought “hey, I wonder where this will go,” and if not, hopefully you do at one point or another! But there’s a point where dreaming of your future and actually acting on your dreams and communicating them to others needs to be a serious consideration.

Communication is Key! Always!

People always told me this when I was younger… But why? I feel like many people say so much about communication and how important it is, while most of them are horrendous communicators (no offense…okay maybe a little). Learning to understand non-verbal cues and truly understanding your family or partner takes time because it’s hard to break out of your habits. I used to be terrible with yelling, and I still am. Especially when it comes to feeling as if I’m dependent, I sometimes will have a hard time admitting how I’m feeling, which is a big no-no.

The best way to get the independence and a feeling of being “independent” and not tied down is by expressing your discomfort in a constructive way. Constructive is the key word here. Yelling, accusing, and in general harassing someone because you don’t like how you feel in a situation does not fix things! You’re way more likely to fix issues if you stay calm and address the situation at hand.

One key note I would definitely like to bring up is this, “Just because you are calm, doesn’t mean the other person will be.” I’ve learned this from arguments between me and my boyfriend. It’s oftentimes very very hard to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, especially in the heat of the moment. But even explaining that you’re trying can oftentimes help and help them realize that you are trying. And that’s the best thing that you can do during tense conversations!

Real Independence v. Wanted

We are all human. And most times, it feels like an incredible privilege (if you’re like me, again)! Other times, not so much. We make mistakes and that happens, but it’s how you fix them that matters to you and your future. Being independent is great, but we all should learn how to depend on others as well. There’s a difference in being “independent” and being truly independent, where you are disconnected from everyone else. Knowing the difference really helps put your life in perspective.

Being independent and more of a mind state than literal most times. Independence implies that you do not depend on anyone or anything but yourself. In theory, it’s a great way to be. But at the end of the day, most of us want to be loved and cared for too. It’s a human thing!

Next week you can look forward to some Episode tips again, TBA. If you are not following for episode, next week’s article may not be for you. Thank you for all the support I’ve been receiving on Instagram as well! I hope you’re enjoying both halves of me through my writing. Till then! ❤

Published on 4 April, 2020 by Kyla R.

During times like these where it seems like we would be the happiest will all of our extra time, its hardening when the sad reality sets in. Being busy oftentimes distracts us from realizing how unhappy we may be with ourselves and our lack of hobbies or activities. So today, we are going to discuss how we can all keep ourselves happiest during a time where we typically stuck all on our own, even when surrounded by others.

Try New Hobbies

Never knock it, til’ you try it, guys. There are so many hobbies and activities you may have judged too harshly at one point that may have been your perfect match. You have all the time now! Other than allotted work or school hours, of course.

Even though you have a hobby already, have you tried some others? I myself feel like I’m all hobbied up already, so I wouldn’t dare to find another at this point. But that’s likely since I have more than one at this point! If you don’t and have been feeling like you have too much down time, try something new!

When I was young, I was sent to so many lessons. I tried guitar, ballet, other dancing lessons like salsa and hip-hop, drawing, painting, piano, etc. It’s sad to say that I never actually stuck with any of them. It wasn’t until I hit highschool when I began doing things more independently that I began playing the Trumpet (which I no longer do, but 7 years of playing, IMO, is plenty enough) and writing online. But if it wasn’t for my background in about twenty other activities, I would never have become so easily adaptable and easy to talk to as I am now.

Not sure where to start? Take a look at this list and pick something that calls out to you! Maybe it’ll stick around for a few years like mine did.

Start a New Project

Have you been wanting to fix up your backyard and get rid of all the nasty weeds? Wanting to spruce up your bedroom and house? Now is the time! Some project may be limited, but lots of things can be purchased on amazon and other online retailers to progress with a new project while you’re stuck at home.

Deep cleaning is always an option as well, but I wouldn’t recommend it if you don’t already have the supplies. When I went to the store the other day, they were completely out of all cleaning supplies, even Swiffer Sweeper wet refills! Apparently people think that mopping their floors excessively will keep the virus away. Tip: If no one leaves or enters your house, nothing that is not already there will suddenly appear!

Had some furniture sitting in the garage collecting dust day after day? Is there some paint you’ve had sitting around months on end because you haven’t had the time to get to painting? Now is a great time to refresh your project ideas and get some old ones out of the way. Plus, new furniture or a new paint job always makes the place feel new again.

This down time has given me the inspiration to bring my old elliptical standing bike from outside and wipe down all the pollen from it so that I could begin using it indoors! Being at home all day and having the chance to eat everytime you want it, isn’t exactly amazing for your body at the end of the day sometimes.

Get Out of the House

No, no. I do not mean go to the store unnecessarily and/or visit others and get close to everyone you see, if anyone, on the streets. All I mean is that sitting on your butt in your bedroom all day is NOT good for you, I promise. It’s proven that staying sedentary actually decreases your chances of feeling productive at the end of the day. So get off your but and take in a deep breath of the nice air the outdoors has to offer you. Unless there’s a lot of pollen and you’re severely allergic. Then, it may be a slight problem.

Have a dog? He/She probably needs a walk anyways. Take him/her out, but stay away from people. Have a patio? Drink your coffee out there. Have a good sized front yard area? Take a seat and enjoy the sun. It is still out there, guys.

Learn Boundaries

There may have never been enough time or need to make clear boundaries with those around you, if there are any. But this counts, even if you’re living alone. Creating boundaries can be split into two seperate categories, which we can define as used with others and yoruself.

Your Own Boundaries: These count for all living situations. It’s easy to slack off, and if you don’t make clear boundaries with yourself and don’t have discipline, you will end up going down the rabbit hole of procrastination, which neither of us want. Set boundaries of what you have to have done before spending idle time doing other things!

Boundaries with Others: If you are living with your family or roomates of any sort, it’s important that you establish boundaries with them! Remember to respect their boundaries in hopes that they will do the same to you. In my home, my bedroom is a loft and my boyfriend stays in a bedroom with a door downstairs. One clear boundary I have is for him to keep his door closed, especially if he’s making a lot of noise since I don’t have my own door. If you have work or meetings where you’re required to be attentive, be sure to communicate this to your roomates. It’s hard to respect boundaries when they have not been set!

Learn About Yourself

Have you really ever had the time before to sit down and devote some time to learning more about yourself? This is by far my favorite tip for keeping yourself happy, especially now that you have the time! Learning more about yourself guarantees better control over your emotions and yourself, as well as a chance to better understand the things you feel and do.

Whether this is through meditation, spending time on hobbies, or taking personality quizzes, anything is right so long as it feels right! My favorites are taking personality quizzes to find your specific personality type with lots of extra information on your type and asking yourself questions to better learn about yourself. I wrote my answers to all these questions on a paper a few years back, and time to time, I like to revisit it and see how things may have changed.

What are some things you have begun doing since the quarantine and being stuck at home, if you are at all? Have you been enjoying your time or does it feel like it’s the same as it was before? Let me know in the comments!

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Published on 1 April, 2020 by Kyla R.

Don’t get me wrong…I understand that not everybody enjoys playing video games. And I know better than most that many people do absolutely adore playing video games during the time of the pandemic and not. But today, I’m going to recommend some games I’ve played in the past that I’ve loved playing again during my COVID-19 lockdown.

During hard times and the immense amount of people losing their jobs, it’s not ideal for spending money on console games, or any games at all. But if it passes the time quickly and makes you happy, I find that it’s something that can really bring you joy. You can find the Nintendo Switch console here and at other retailers at well. I would recommend looking into the differences for the Switch and the Switch Lite and save you money if one is too much for you!

Animal Crossing: New Horizons

Yes, I have hopped onto the hype-train for this new switch game. I had played Animal Crossing: New Leaf on my Nintendo 3DS (when it was the most popular thing, of course) and loved it then. I knew it was time to try this one when I saw all the hype it was receiving on all my Snapchat and Instagram friends’ stories.

But why is it such a big deal? Why would anyone want to live in a virtual world with a character that barely looks like you and chop wood all day, talking to funky looking animals? This is why.

Playing with Friends

Playing with friends who I can’t have physical contact with has really helped me feel less lonely! And flaunting my beautiful home and the fact that I have all but one type of fruit on my island to my pals makes it all the better.

Visiting friends (and stealing their fruit) can make you a ton of money, which is always helpful. You can take a look at their museum, their home, and their friendly island villagers/residents.

You can chat, but I prefer texting them and calling instead since it doesn’t stop you from continuing exploring their island.

See how to have your friends visit your island here!

It’s Time to Grind

Animal Crossing is easily understood as a grinding game, meaning that it requires time and effort, not skill to succeed. Personally, these are my favorite types of games. There is no competition, and your villagers encourage you to actually chill on your island and take your time. It’s an island! There’s no rush for anything.

There are so many things to do just in one day. For me, I wake up and play a few hours before going on my day if I have the day off. I start with shaking all my trees (to get fruit, coins, or furniture), fish when I see fish around and catch insects when I see them, get wood from trees, hit all the rocks, etc. It’s more work than you’d think, but it’s so gratifying when you’re able to make new furniture, expand your house, or getting new residents to your island.


Overall this game is currently my favorite and is incredible! It’s very kid-friendly for those of you with children who can’t seem to leave you alone when you’re working from home as well.

Learn more about the game or purchase it here.

Fire Emblem: Three Houses

Fire Emblem games have been my favorite since a few years back when I got my first fire emblem, Fire Emblem: Awakening, for my Nintendo 3DS. This is why we should all be trying it this year.

With ratings of 4.8/5 from GameStop, 4.9/5 from BestBuy, and 9.5/10 from IGN, you know that the game must be pretty amazing. Luckily, I already know this, so I know for a fact that…

It Makes You Think!

If you are anything like me, it feels like my brain has depleted since I’ve been staying at home. And before Fire Emblem, I never had an interest in any strategy games…but this one is different. Fire Emblem doesn’t use strategy is an old timey game kind of way, and yet it does at the same time. The characters are relatable and having plenty of personality, the color scheme isn’t focused on the color brown, and you can create actual relationships between characters. There’s a lot more than a simple “this character goes here” to the general game mechanic. The developers know this too, and it shows. There’s a reason why it was voted Best Strategy Game at the Game Awards, people.

You’re a Leader.

Have you ever wanted to lead an entire army without the possibility of real people dying? Guess what? Now you can, even if you never thought you wanted to. You are the decision-maker, and you get to make the hard calls. And if you can’t take losing your virtual army, play in a more comfortable mode, it’s all up to you!

There are plenty of options.

Are you the kind of person who likes making choices and personalizing your Are you the kind of person who likes making choices and personalizing your game? Then this game may just be perfect for you. Don’t like someone in the game? Think a character is too weak? You don’t have to use them in your army. You have total control in Fire Emblem. Don’t you like one house? Well great! You’ll be fighting against the others anyways.

Learn more about the game or purchase it here.

Published on 24 December 2019 by Kyla R.

No matter what holiday you are celebrating this year (even if it’s just having a few days off this winter time), I hope you are spending time with your family or friends (or even with your pets, or alone!) My family celebrates on Christmas Eve (a sort of Polish-American Tradition) and so we are in the midst of cooking now. I am taking a moment break from helping with the soup!

So for all of you celebrating tomorrow… Here is a list of things I have found memorable to do around the holiday season.

My favorite… VIDEO GAMES! Or any games, really. I absolutely adore playing fun games, whether they be board games or virtual games, a little competition always bring up fun memories! Monopoly, the Game of Life, Mario Party, or Mario Kart.. I love them all!

Oh gosh.. Look at the hot chocolate!

Hot chocolate and holiday movies. My favorites are always christmas themed romantic comedies. My favorite from this and last year: Holiday in the Wild and The Princess Switch! I also love showing off my mad coffee making skills when it comes to making hot chocolate. My mother loves her latte machine, so I love to make everyone hot chocolate with my own frothed milk and hot chocolate powder topped with whipped cream, chocolate drizzle, and marshmallows! Sometimes, even a peppermint stick if they’re feelin’ it.

Cook a nice dinner! As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized how much I could learn cooking-wise from my family, especially my mom and grandmother. If your family enjoys cooking, have them teach you. Otherwise, search up some recipes and try something out yourself! Most places are closed on Christmas anyways, so you may as well learn how to cook something.

If you’re lucky and have snow... You better be playing out in it tomorrow! I used to live in the suburbs in NY, and I loved having the snow. Especially if you have kids, spend some time making some snowmen, igloos, whatever you wish. Spend some time (but not too much that you freeze) in the white paradise!

Some people use this time to spend time with hobbies! Writing, reading, and even editing, as shown by @bea_writes_ on Instagram!

Call your distant relatives. I’ve spent all day listening to my mother call her cousins, their cousins, my grandparents, my uncles, everyone. Give everyone a message or call and let them know they’re on your mind this holiday season. It goes a long way.

Spend some of your time doing the things you love! Have a hobby you adore? Spend any free time you have improving on them. Write on that laptop by the fire, cuddle up with a fuzzy blanket and read, play your instrument… Whatever your heart desires!

I wish you all have an incredible holiday season this year… Let me know what you’re doing for today and tomorrow, I’m interested!

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Published on 22 December 2019 by Kyla R.

There is beauty in everything,” People say. I don’t think I have ever heard or read a phrase more often than that in my times of reflection and fear. They will tell you to take a look around and take in the scenery, the peace, the air. More than not, it’s hard to complete such a simple task. But why? Likely because it’s not so simple after all.

I don’t know about you, but I found a love of being in nature all alone. Nothing but me and the air surrounding me, whatever the scenery is. The silence…Oh, the silence. It’s something surreal. It’s incredibly hard to take a moment to yourself and just breathe many days. We constantly have things to do. If you’re anything like me, you’re constantly aiming to find even more to do. We are all motivated by something. Love…Compassion. Money, fame, pride. There’s so many things that us humans are motivated by. It’s a blessing and a curse in my book. We’re unlike any animal on this earth with such a broad scope of possibilities that we focus so much on what we can have that we don’t take a moment to realize what we do have.

One thing I find most empowering in these obviously, yet hidden beauties in life, is the fact that it surrounds us. Even in our most stressful moments, the world is still spinning. People are still moving. In moments of dire anxiety, I’ll hold a deep breath and think about the fact that no one else knows how I’m feeling. People have their own feelings, and we don’t always know how to express them best.

A perfect example of this is the time I drove down a one way road the wrong way. I was so incredibly frustrated and embarrassed, but as soon as I got back to the main road I quickly noticed that no one I was driving by then knew what just happened, and that provided some solace.

I like to think that almost everyone automatically assumes I’m referring to animals, plants, trees, or things of the sort when I refer to hidden beauties in everyday life. But this isn’t necessarily what I’m referring to. The beauty in making someone smile, sitting on a laptop shielded from the rain, seeing the lights of a christmas tree reflecting off the windows of someone’s home. Things that make you smile, or maybe, internally smile.

When I was younger, I used to journal frequently. I thought up of an idea to make myself reflect my day better, an idea of “What Made Me Smile Today?” where I jotted down moments of my life that made me happy. I would script these down like a goofball with an enormous smile. But as I got older, I tried it again. I was having a hard time finding things that genuinely made me so happy that I could smile. I realized that with time, it was no longer what made me smile, but rather what made me pleased. What made me thankful.

It is not easy to take in the sights of your daily life when everything seems so rushed. We are all busy people. Whether you have school, work, children, or even a combination of them all, we are all busy in some way. But sometime this week, try to take a moment to yourself when you’re feeling riled up and breathe. Think about the objects and people that surround you and notice how lucky you are to be where you are, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.

What is the first hidden beauty you can think of that you are you grateful for?

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Published on 22 December 2019 by Kyla R.

Hey, my name is Kyla, but I go by Lucina online. I am a interactive story writer who is still in college, unsure of what the future brings for me. This blog is starting today so I can share my journey with you and others to let everyone know that whether you are past this point in your life, stuck in a rut like I am, or know someone who may be stuck— everyone is somewhere.

Follow me on my journey through University as I learn who I am and who I wish to become. I wish to give out my support, form a community, and simply be a smiling face from behind my laptop screen (Yes, I am a laptop gal and not a desktop.). I wish to connect much farther than just an online community and become friends with you…especially you.

If you’re interested in learning more about me, here is my story.

I am a current sophomore in university (AKA a second year) going into my 2nd year Spring semester. I have had many doubts about my major in the past, but have never put an extraordinary amount of thought into it. But as I lose time, piling up debt and thinking about what could have been, I have formed a new perspective that I wish to inform others of so that they may not make the same mistake as I did, and currently am.

Expect many things from the blog. Consistency, love, and an immense amount of appreciation. But also variety. Posts about undergraduate schooling, doubts of my future (as every pre-adult will have), my wishes and aspirations (as well as yours), and some of my past works during my last few years. I look forward to what this blog has to come and the community I will form with you.

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