Published on 25 April 2020 by Kyla R.


Whether you feel as if you’re dependent on your parents, friends, or partner(s)…Sometimes we all feel as if we aren’t contributing much to the pile. So that’s where the recurring question of, “How do I change this?” comes in.

I’ve always been the kind of person who tries to keep a positive and optimistic outlook on life and all the crazy events and scenarios that comes with it. Especially when you’re younger (early teens, late teens, early twenties) it’s hard to feel independent if you’re anything like me. If you’re part of the typical family, you go off to college and continue mooching off your family or end up taking loans for schooling. In some cases, you do both (like me). So how can you be more independent with the help of others? Here are some things that have helped me.

Consider Your Future. Seriously.

So many younger adults don’t actually plan for the future. If you’re anything like me, that kinda sounds insane. (Once you get into the planning mindset, you can never get out. It’s like a stressful maze sometimes!) I’m not telling you to get a job with a retirement fund and start working full time now or buy yourself a house (well, maybe. You’ll see)!

We have all fantasized about our futures. If you’ve ever had any serious relationship, you’ve probably thought “hey, I wonder where this will go,” and if not, hopefully you do at one point or another! But there’s a point where dreaming of your future and actually acting on your dreams and communicating them to others needs to be a serious consideration.

Communication is Key! Always!

People always told me this when I was younger… But why? I feel like many people say so much about communication and how important it is, while most of them are horrendous communicators (no offense…okay maybe a little). Learning to understand non-verbal cues and truly understanding your family or partner takes time because it’s hard to break out of your habits. I used to be terrible with yelling, and I still am. Especially when it comes to feeling as if I’m dependent, I sometimes will have a hard time admitting how I’m feeling, which is a big no-no.

The best way to get the independence and a feeling of being “independent” and not tied down is by expressing your discomfort in a constructive way. Constructive is the key word here. Yelling, accusing, and in general harassing someone because you don’t like how you feel in a situation does not fix things! You’re way more likely to fix issues if you stay calm and address the situation at hand.

One key note I would definitely like to bring up is this, “Just because you are calm, doesn’t mean the other person will be.” I’ve learned this from arguments between me and my boyfriend. It’s oftentimes very very hard to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, especially in the heat of the moment. But even explaining that you’re trying can oftentimes help and help them realize that you are trying. And that’s the best thing that you can do during tense conversations!

Real Independence v. Wanted

We are all human. And most times, it feels like an incredible privilege (if you’re like me, again)! Other times, not so much. We make mistakes and that happens, but it’s how you fix them that matters to you and your future. Being independent is great, but we all should learn how to depend on others as well. There’s a difference in being “independent” and being truly independent, where you are disconnected from everyone else. Knowing the difference really helps put your life in perspective.

Being independent and more of a mind state than literal most times. Independence implies that you do not depend on anyone or anything but yourself. In theory, it’s a great way to be. But at the end of the day, most of us want to be loved and cared for too. It’s a human thing!


Next week you can look forward to some Episode tips again, TBA. If you are not following for episode, next week’s article may not be for you. Thank you for all the support I’ve been receiving on Instagram as well! I hope you’re enjoying both halves of me through my writing. Till then! ❤

Published 25 December 2019 by Kyla R.


Have you ever wanted to start up a business, but didn’t know how or what? When you hear business, you probably think big corporations, restaurants, or an office. Especially when you’re starting in the business world, these options aren’t exactly accessible. With no experience, it may seem even more impossible. Here are some ideas for small businesses you can get up and running in a matter of days.

  1. Lawn Care: This includes cutting/trimming grass and bushes, fixing up pine straw, and cleaning up driveways. What’s needed: A lawnmower and probably a blower.

2. Tutor: Did you go to college? Did you get a degree in something? Great! You’re likely able to tutor students. Students in all subjects constantly need tutoring help and if you live in a neighborhood with lots of children, this might be easier than you think! What’s needed: Knowledge on the subject matter, ability to teach and work with children, and likely a clear record.

3. Dog Walker: Lots of apps such as Rover, Barkley Pets, and Wag all allow users to either search for walkers/sitters or apply as them! Nothing is required, but to get jobs some testimonials and past experience is highly recommended. A car to get to certain homes may also be helpful!

4. Errand Runner: Especially in areas with senior citizens, this business may be profitable for you. Lots of individuals (not only older ones) don’t have the time or energy to run around doing errands. That’s where you come in! What’s needed: A car or means of transportation and the skill of organization!

5. Cleaning Business: There are lots of high end businesses like these, so to succeed, you will need to find clients by going to people in your neighborhood! Lots of people need their houses cleaned, especially before holidays and other events. What’s needed: Cleaning supplies and a client list!

6. AirBnB Host: If you own your house, awesome! If not, this may not be the choice for you (unless your landlord is fine with it, but probably not.) This is especially great if you’re living in a big city where tourists come in and out! Renting out a room for the night and providing a few things here and there for your renter is pretty simple, but be prepared to have someone you may not exactly approve of living in your home for that time. What’s needed: A room with a bed! Preferably a house.

7. Babysitting: Have lots of children in your neighborhood? Like children? That’s great! What if you could get paid to hang out with kids? Becoming a babysitter is a great idea, so long as you’re actually responsible. What’s needed: Parents are picky. You will likely need lots of testimonials (so experience) and CPR certification (bonus points if you took a class specifically for children!)

8. Meal Planner and Prepper: Interested in helping others diet and form a healthier lifestyle? Maybe planning meals is a business you might excel in. Look for local small gyms and offer up your idea, I’ve seen lots who have teamed up and now have hundreds of clients due to this! What’s needed: Testimonials will definitely help, but being fit yourself is a great help!

These are some of my favorites, but the list doesn’t stop here! You can make a small business out of practically anything, so go and try it!

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